When Divorce Becomes a War Nobody Wins
Divorce is hard. That is not a controversial statement. What is controversial, at least within the family law world, is the idea that the hardest parts of divorce are often manufactured by the process itself rather than the conflict between the two people in it. Most families restructuring after separation face somewhere between 250 and 350 distinct issues to resolve. Very few of those issues actually require a judge. The ones that do get litigated tend to consume an outsized share of the family’s money, attention, and emotional reserves, leaving far less capacity for the harder work of actually raising children in two homes. The Hidden Cost of Litigation The financial argument against litigation is well-documented, but the emotional one rarely gets the attention it deserves. When a divorce is moderately contested, the average recovery time back to psychological and emotional baseline is roughly two years. A litigated divorce can stretch that to five or more. Those are not abs...