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073: Best Hits from the Archives: The SPLIT Films’ Ellen Bruno: Giving Voices to Kids of Divorce

In this moving episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, Krista welcomes acclaimed documentary filmmaker Ellen Bruno, the creator behind the powerful films “Split: The Early Years” and “Split Up: The Teen Years.” These documentaries feature a cast of real children who had experienced divorce of their parents, with purely their voices and artwork, no experts, no therapists, no adults – just the kids. Split featured the kids when young; Split Up then followed up with the same kids 10 years later, reflecting on how divorce had impacted them as they emerged into late teens and young adulthood. The films give incredibly powerful insight every parent going through family law dynamics should watch, as well as any professional in the family law arena. The film is raw, honest, and deeply impactful. In her conversation with Krista, Ellen shares the personal journey that inspired her to create Split, which began after her own divorce when she heard her own child and others in carpools f...
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10 Tips for a Conflict-Free Divorce: How to Protect Your Children from Emotional Harm

Key Takeaways Divorce does not automatically damage children — chronic, unresolved conflict does. Children should never be used as messengers, witnesses, confidants, or emotional processing partners. Predictable routines and consistent expectations across both homes provide emotional stability for children. How parents handle exchanges, tone, and adult narratives has a direct and lasting impact on a child’s identity and mental health. A parent’s own emotional regulation is one of the most powerful protective factors for a child’s wellbeing after divorce.   Is Your Divorce Hurting Your Kids? Here’s What Actually Matters If you’re lying awake at night wondering, ‘ Is this going to ruin my children? ‘, you’re not alone. Krista Nash — family law attorney, mediator, parenting coordinator, and child advocate at Children First Family Law® — has sat across from thousands of parents in exactly that position. Some are angry. Some are devastated. Some are numb. But almost all of the...
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072: Will Divorce Ruin My Kids? 10 Co-Parenting Strategies to Protect Your Child’s Emotional Health

In this episode, Krista speaks directly to parents who are lying awake at night asking the same question: Is this going to ruin my kids? Drawing from decades of experience as an attorney, mediator, parenting coordinator, and child advocate, Krista unpacks a hard truth—divorce itself does not automatically damage children, but chronic conflict and poor co-parenting absolutely can. She walks through ten practical, immediately usable strategies to lower tension and protect a child’s emotional safety. Krista shares real stories from her work with families, highlighting how tone, structure, exchanges, and emotional regulation shape a child’s long-term wellbeing. Divorce handled with maturity and intention can still raise secure, emotionally healthy children—and that choice starts with the adults. In this episode, you will hear: Why divorce itself does not automatically damage children but chronic conflict does Ten practical strategies to reduce co parenting tension and protect emotio...
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Why Communication Escalates in High Conflict Co-Parenting

In many post-separation families, the biggest battles are not about major legal issues. They are about communication. A medical appointment, a school event, or a schedule change can quickly spiral into pages of accusations and defensiveness. The problem is rarely the topic itself. It is the tone, the assumptions, and the emotional charge behind the exchange. High conflict dynamics often stem from unmanaged anger and unresolved grief. When one or both parents feel blamed, betrayed, or powerless, they may become preoccupied with proving the other person wrong. Instead of focusing on solutions, communication turns into scorekeeping. This pattern not only exhausts parents, it creates tension that children inevitably feel. The BIFF Framework: A Practical Reset One of the most effective tools for calming co-parent conflict is the BIFF method: Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm. Brief means limiting responses to what is necessary. Lengthy explanations often invite more argument. A con...
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071: From the Archives: Incremental Trust Building for Co-Parents: A Challenge from International Expert Dr. Michael Saini

Co-parents often find themselves at a stalemate with one parent distrustful of the other. Trust can be rebuilt, and returning guest Dr. Michael Saini has some tips on how to do it. On today’s episode of Children First Family Law, Krista welcomes back Dr. Saini, a Toronto-based renowned psychologist who has authored more than 200 publications, including book chapters, government reports, systematic reviews, and a vast number of peer-reviewed journal articles highlighting research in the area of family law and its impact on children. Dr. Saini is a passionate advocate for children’s rights. Krista and Dr. Saini begin their conversation by explaining the importance of establishing boundaries around trust and repairing trust violations in the context of a divorce situation. Dr. Saini outlines the research on trust as the number one dynamic for co-parenting success, emphasizing the importance of accepting who your co-parent is and building trust despite any disputes you may have with th...
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070: BIFF Communication for Co-Parents with Bill Eddy: International Author and Expert on Coparenting Communication

In this episode of the Children First Family Law Podcast, Krista is joined by Bill Eddy, co-founder of the High Conflict Institute and author of BIFF for Co-Parent Communication. They dive into one of the biggest challenges in family law cases: how parents communicate during conflict. Whether tensions show up around parenting time and decision making, medical issues, school events, or simple schedule changes, the way we respond can either calm the situation—or inflame it. Bill walks through the BIFF method—Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm—and explains why managing your own communication is often the fastest way to reduce conflict. He also explores why some parents get stuck in anger and how that spills over onto children. If you want practical tools to protect your kids and bring more stability to co-parent communication, this conversation is for you. In this episode, you will hear: What BIFF means and why Brief Informative Friendly Firm responses reduce conflict How to re...
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069: The Benefits of Full-Service Amicable Uncontested Divorce Mediation. How to Save Money, Reduce Stress, and Prioritize Your Family’s Emotional Health During Divorce

It’s no secret that separations and divorces can be stressful, costly, and emotionally exhausting, and finding a solution that works for both parties involved and the children can feel impossible. On this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista outlines the options available to those seeking a divorce or separation, particularly in Colorado. The choices individuals make in this situation have implications, and Krista shares the potential pitfalls and considerations of each one. These options include handling the separation or divorce without an attorney, hiring an attorney (or two–one for each party), coaching services, mediation, and arbitration. She explains each one’s advantages and disadvantages. Krista offers a unique final solution she developed called an Amicable Uncontested Divorce Solution, in which she works with both co-parents to create customized solutions for their particular scenario. Finally, Krista shares the importance of preserving the co-parenting dynamic to ...
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