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The Education Decisions That Can Make — or Break — a Child’s Future After Divorce

Why Education Planning Matters During Divorce When parents separate, the focus often lands on parenting time, child support, and the house. Educational needs quietly sit in the background, yet they can shape a child’s long-term future more than almost any other decision. For children with learning, behavioral, medical, or emotional challenges, school is often where stress shows up first. Ignoring education during divorce can leave a child without the structure and support they need to cope.   IEPs vs 504 Plans: What Is the Difference   A 504 plan comes from Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act. It gives a student access through accommodations, such as extra time on tests, preferential seating, or permission to take movement breaks.   An Individualized Education Program (IEP) is governed by the IDEA. It goes further. An IEP can change how a child is taught, track measurable goals, provide specialized instruction, and add related services such as school-based counseling. In simple t...
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094: Can You Kidnap Your Own Child? The Hague Convention, International Custody Battles & the Saeed Abedini Case

A parent taking a child on vacation is one thing. Crossing international borders without the other parent’s agreement is something else entirely. We explore where that line is drawn, why parental kidnapping is often misunderstood, and how the Hague Convention handles custody disputes that span multiple countries. Family law attorney Devon Rood Slovensky explains when parents are free to travel with their children, when legal restrictions begin, and why many situations people fear are “kidnapping” do not meet that standard. We also examine the Hague Convention through the high-profile Saeed Abedini case, where a young child was taken from Turkey to the United States, leading to a complex international legal fight. Devon shares how courts determine a child’s habitual residence, why acting quickly matters, and how delays can affect the outcome of a case. Along the way, we discuss the role of federal courts, the challenges families face when different countries are...
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093: What Every Parent (and Family Lawyer) Should Know About IEPs and 504 Plans

In this conversation, Krista sits down with special education attorney and expert witness LaTanya Moore, author of IEPs Made Easy: A Parent’s Guide to Special Education Advocacy. We unpack how education decisions during and after divorce can profoundly shape a child’s future. Krista and LaTanya explain why IEPs (Individualized Education Programs) and 504 plans are not just “school paperwork,” but critical tools that can either support or undermine a child’s ability to learn and thrive — especially when parents are in conflict. They clarify the legal framework behind IDEA and Section 504, what each plan actually does, and how to tell when a child needs more than simple classroom accommodations. Listeners will learn practical questions every parent and family lawyer should ask about a child’s educational needs, why early intervention matters, and how to reframe “labels” as access to support — not a life sentence. Above all, Krista and LaTanya urge parents and professionals to treat ed...
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092: Top Reasons Parents Lose Custody in Colorado — And How to Protect Your Parenting Time

In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista breaks down the leading reasons parents lose custody or experience restrictions on parenting time in Colorado. Drawing on her work as a child advocate and family law attorney, Krista explains how judges evaluate safety, stability, mental health, and co-parenting behaviors when deciding on parental responsibilities. She also reminds listeners that “losing custody” in Colorado rarely means a permanent loss of parental rights. Instead, it typically reflects temporary limits tied to a child’s best interests. Krista walks through the three most common categories that lead courts to restrict parenting time—safety concerns, parental unfitness or instability, and damaging co-parenting behavior. She illustrates each category with case patterns she has seen repeatedly in child advocacy work, including emotional abuse, unmanaged mental health issues, and behavior that undermines the child’s relationship with the other par...
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091: Coercive Control, Accountability & Custody — A Deep Dive with Nil Buckley

In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista welcomes Nil Buckley, a licensed professional counselor, licensed addiction counselor, and domestic violence clinical supervisor whose expertise bridges trauma-informed mental health, forensic evaluation, and family law. Nil is the founder of Vivas Counseling and Care Forensic Solutions and creator of The CARE Method, an evidence-based program now used in multiple states to support both survivors and offenders. Her background includes extensive work with the Colorado Department of Corrections, court-ordered treatment programs, and expert testimony in criminal and domestic relations cases. Drawing from this deep professional experience, Nil joins Krista to explore how coercive control and its related forms, including legal abuse, financial manipulation, and psychological coercion, show up in custody cases and family court. She explains that there are now 24 recognized forms of abuse in the global research literat...
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Who Keeps the Dog? Navigating Pet Custody in Divorce

When relationships end, people often talk about their pets like children. The emotional bond is real, but dogs and cats have very different needs than kids. Treating an animal like a child can unintentionally create stress, anxiety, and even behavior problems. Loving a pet well in the context of a breakup means asking a different question: “What is best for this animal as an animal?” not “How do I treat them like my child?” How Breed, Age, and Health Shape Custody Decisions Not all dogs cope with shared homes in the same way. Herding breeds and guard dogs are often deeply attached to one person or one territory, which can make frequent moves confusing and destabilizing. Toy breeds and smaller dogs may be more physically vulnerable to stress. Age, medical issues, and prior trauma also matter. A younger, resilient dog with solid routines is more likely to adapt than an anxious senior dog with health problems. Dogs, Cats, and the Myth of Easy Sharing Dogs are generally easier to move ...
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090: Who Keeps the Dog? Navigating Pet Custody in Divorce with International Expert Karis Nafte

When families separate, deciding who keeps the dog can feel just as emotional as any other part of the breakup. In this episode, we explore why pet disputes become so charged and how to make decisions that truly prioritize both kids and animals. We walk through why it’s crucial not to treat pets like children in divorce, how their needs differ, and what happens when those lines get blurred. Karis explains how breed, personality, age, health, and history all factor into whether a dog can realistically move between homes, and why shared pet parenting often creates more stress than comfort for the animal. We also talk about cats, “roommate” animals, bonded pairs, and why territory matters so much. Parents, professionals, and pet lovers will learn practical ways to evaluate what’s actually best for the dog, how to structure trial arrangements, and how to balance children’s attachment with responsible, long-term planning for their four-legged family members. In this episode, you will he...
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